January 2026 Update: Giving Up Without Giving In
Funny how things work. I thought I gave up on the job search in December, but what I really gave up was tying my self-worth to my employment status. A small mindset shift, a simple resume mistake, and one more phone call later — I’m starting a new chapter in tech
Funny how things work.
The job search exhausted me. By December, I told myself I was done. But looking back now, I didn’t really give up — I just stopped putting pressure on myself. More specifically, I stopped tying my self-worth to whether or not I was employed.
We all do it. Most of us just don’t like to admit it.
There were kind people in my network who reached out, encouraged me, and even referred me to roles at their companies. Nothing materialized, but that’s okay. I appreciated the effort more than I can say, and I was genuinely grateful to slow down and focus on the holiday season.
And then… curiosity kicked in.
Back in October, I had applied for a role I was genuinely excited about — a hands-on, in-person tech position that felt aligned with where I wanted to grow. I never heard back. Not after submitting my resume, not after filling out the application, not after introducing myself in person, and not after a couple follow-up calls.
What caught my eye in December was this: the position was still open.
So I called again.
This time, I got a callback. And within minutes, the mystery unraveled. My resume still listed my Detroit address. The role was in-person, two hours away from Detroit. From HR’s perspective, my application didn’t make sense — so it was quietly filtered out.
One small oversight. One very human mistake.
Once I clarified my location, things moved quickly. I scheduled an interview, received an offer, and now I start Monday, January 5th.
Happy holidays to me, yeah?
I’m excited — genuinely. I’m excited to learn, to have structure around that learning, and to contribute in real, tangible ways. I know there will be hurdles. I know I won’t feel useful right away. And I know imposter syndrome will probably be doing laps in my head for a while.
But all I can do is start at the start.
No shortcuts. Just grinding through new certifications, new processes, and new skills. For the first time in a while, I have a real chance to build a career — and a home — where I actually want to be. That’s not something I take lightly.
I’ll share more once there’s more to share. For now, I’m focused on showing up, learning fast, and keeping imposter syndrome from grabbing the steering wheel.
To anyone still on the job market: I see you. It’s hard out there, and I don’t think it’s getting easier anytime soon. Give yourself a break — but keep yourself in a position to catch one when it finally comes.
Happy New Year, and good luck out there.
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